How to Elope at Home & Still Have the Day of Your Dreams

Given how things are right now, running away to elope isn’t really an option for the near future. Because you can’t travel and hotels are closed, your best bet is to have a wedding at home.

In the past, we’ve talked about how to livestream your wedding. Today, we’re going for something a little less formal: a virtual elopement.

Let’s talk about why you’d choose that approach when you could have a big wedding online and get married virtually.

Virtual elopement

Why not have a full-scale livestream event instead of a virtual elopement?

Well, for the same reason you’d run away and get married: less pressure, less planning, and less money! Even if you have your whole big wedding online, you still have to buy the dress, the decorations, the cake, and all the other things that make a wedding a wedding.

Note, I said “make a wedding a wedding.” You don’t need a wedding to get married. I eloped twice, so believe me!

  • The first time, I got married to my boyfriend as soon as he got out of boot camp. I did it at a courthouse in a group elopement.
  • The second time, I married my Navy boyfriend in Japan while wearing a Dropkick Murphy’s t-shirt in the base legal office.

I went to see him for a month, he asked me to marry him, and I missed my flight home.

Six months, a lot of paperwork, a car fire that destroyed the paperwork, and more paperwork sent from home later, the rest is history.

Sure, it makes me a little sad to think that I’ll never walk down the aisle like that when I go to weddings.

When I think about how much money and stress I saved, I get over it pretty quickly.

So, now that we know “why,” let’s talk about how to elope at home and still have the same fun “running away together” feeling.

We’ll start with the basics and the law when it comes to running away from home.

What do you need at home to run away?

A virtual elopement or one that takes place at home must meet the same basic legal requirements as any other wedding.

RocketLawyer’s guide to the legal side of eloping says that you’ll need:

A marriage license from the state where you plan to run away and get married (in this case, your home state).

An officiant who has the legal power to marry you. Depending on where you live, you may need one or two witnesses.

Anything else that the law in your state requires.

The first two are always important, no matter where you live. Without a license and a person to marry you, you can’t get married. Let’s look more closely at each of the rules.

If you don’t already have a license, check your state’s most recent rules to see if you can get one online.

As we just talked about. The best thing to do is to call the Clerk’s office.

Don’t just rely on a search for “states that let you get a marriage license online,” because I found that the top results aren’t really up to date with what’s going on now.

Choosing a leader

The officiant can be a judge, a priest, or even your roommate who just got ordained online.

Right now, it’s best to find someone who can legally perform the ceremony through a video conference platform like Zoom.

LGBTQ couples should remember that by law, court officials can’t say no to same-sex weddings.

Even so, I still think you should try to find someone who isn’t a closed-minded jerk who will try to ruin your day.

Make it feel special to elope at home

Here are some of my favorite tips and ways to make the day feel more special. You can choose the ones you like and leave the rest.

There are no rules when you elope. Well, none except for the legal requirements we already talked about.

Guests or no guests?

Even though elopements don’t usually have a lot of guests, you might want to invite a few more than the required officiant and witness.

Maybe you want your parents or your best friend to be there. Then again, maybe not! It depends on you. If you do want a few guests, you’ll have to decide if you want them there in person or just virtually.

At the moment, most states have rules about gatherings, and some states don’t let you get together with anyone outside of your household at all.If you decide you do want more people to join virtually, you might want to think about having a low-key livestream event.

You don’t have to make a big deal out of it. Just find something that works for you between a real elopement and a big wedding.Dress for the event, unless you really want to get married in your cute kitty pajamas (hey, we won’t judge).

If you already have clothes for running away together before the world turned upside down, pull them out and put them on.

If you don’t, you might have to look through your closet to find something great, since it’s hard to find good clothes right now.Even if you’re one of the lucky few who can buy clothes without trying them on, it takes forever to get them delivered now.

If you are planning to elope you can take an elopement package in which you will get all the things as per your needs.

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